"the happiest people
are those most willing
to question their lives
and make changes to it"

and besides...Life's too short to do what brings you down

01. Feel Good & Worthy Enough

Learn to stop relying on other people's validation to feel like you have a place in the world

02. Do More of what you love

...without feeling like a sell out or that you're letting people down (p.s. it doesn't need to heal the world...)

03. Create Better Boundaries

Build stronger relationships with your friends, family or clients with healthy boundaries

04. Let Go Of What Holds You Back

Let the past inform your decision making and not dictate it.

Boundaries & Purpose Coach For Introverts & 
Business Process Consultant For Solopreneurs

So...JUST on the off chance you were googling for places to go out this weekend and you stumbled across this page, let's do a quick check in to make sure you're in the right place...

how often do you say to yourself....

"I feel So Overwhelmed, i Just Want To Scream"

The relentless list of things we have to do, the demands from friends, family and work that lead to the things we want to do for ourselves getting pushed right to the bottom of the pile...again. It can feel never ending, and all you want is to feel like you can breathe.

"I feel So Overwhelmed, i Just Want To Scream"

The relentless list of things we have to do, the demands from friends, family and work that lead to the things we want to do for ourselves getting pushed right to the bottom of the pile...again. It can feel never ending, and all you want is to feel like you can breathe.

"i Don't Want People To judge Me"

People's expectations of who they want you to be, what they expect from you. The mere thought of not meeting those expectations makes you hide what you really think, who you really are or want to be in the hope that you'll be accepted and feel good enough.

"I try So Hard, But no-one Understands Me"

You want desperately to feel like people can relate to you and get where you're coming from. You're just waiting for someone to come in and make up for all the things you've had to go through in your life because with everything you've had to go through...you're owed that at least.

"i'll never be good enough for anything/anyone"

A successful marketing plan relies heavily on the pulling-power of advertising copy. Writing result-oriented ad copy is difficult, as it must appeal to, entice, and convince consumers to take action. There is no magic formula to write perfect ad copy; it is based on a number of factors, including ad placement, demographic, even the consumer’s mood when they see your ad.

"i'll never be good enough for anything/anyone"

A successful marketing plan relies heavily on the pulling-power of advertising copy. Writing result-oriented ad copy is difficult, as it must appeal to, entice, and convince consumers to take action. There is no magic formula to write perfect ad copy; it is based on a number of factors, including ad placement, demographic, even the consumer’s mood when they see your ad.

"I Try So Hard, But no-one UNDERSTANDS ME"

You want desperately to feel like people can relate to you, get where you're coming from and what you've been through. You're just waiting for someone to come in and make up for all the things you've had to go through in your life because with everything you've had to go through...you're owed that at least.

"Life Is easier for everyone else but me"

You see everyone seamlessly managing life like it's second nature to them, not a care in the world, they ask or want for something, and somehow, it just happens for them. But you've had to struggle, overcome so many challenges and still aren't where you want to be.

"i'm Not good enough for anything OR anyone"

Your friends have amazing partners, incredible jobs, and all in all, a pretty wonderful life. They're smarter, funnier and less broken than you, so when you compare yourself to all that, you feel like you don't deserve the same level of success or more, as much as you still crave it.

"i'm not good enough"

Your friends have amazing partners, incredible jobs, and all in all, a pretty wonderful life. They're smarter, funnier and less broken than you, so when you compare yourself to all that, you feel like you don't deserve to experience the same, as much as you yearn for it.

"i don't know where i'm going or how to get started"

You never wanted to do what you do now, everyday is the same old same old. But you have security, and things feel "safe". You've spent years just drifting,  because you're worried of losing all that for the sake of doing something just for you and letting everyone else down in the process. And besides, where do you even begin working out what it is you truly want to do and how to even do it? 

"I put everyone else first but no-one appreciates me"

You go out of your way for others, even dropping what you want to do to make sure someone else is ok, yet no-one - not a single person - repays you with gratitude. It feels like it's take, take, take and you feel so depleted that you have no headspace for you.

"I put everyone else first but no-one appreciates me"

You go out of your way for others, even dropping what you want to do to make sure someone else is ok, yet no-one - not a single person - repays you with gratitude. It feels like it's take, take, take and you just feel depleted.

"i Don't Want To make The Wrong decision OR Fail"

Whether it's what to do for dinner or whether to hand in your resignation, making a decision makes you anxious and you'd much rather ask your friends or post a question in an online group than decide for yourself. Because you might remember the last time you made a decision and it all went wrong and you simply don't want to face another failure or upset anyone.
...and if you've made it THIS far, then I'm guessing you most definitely are in the right place, and I just want to say that I COMPLETELY get it.

None of us were ever taught to put ourselves first, to be ourselves, do what really want to do with our lives, or to even own our own emotions. And our issues go way beyond our childhoods. Our primal instinct is - safety in numbers to survive. Which means, we do what we can to fit in just to feel "safe".  We want to be accepted into their world to feel like we have a place and want that validation from others that we're worthy of just...being.

You're not alone...it's something that I was a slave to for decades.
This is me, Tell Me More

"no-one gets me, i always feel like an outsider"

A successful marketing plan relies heavily on the pulling-power of advertising copy. Writing result-oriented ad copy is difficult, as it must appeal to, entice, and convince consumers to take action. There is no magic formula to write perfect ad copy; it is based on a number of factors, including ad placement, demographic, even the consumer’s mood when they see your ad.

"I put everyone else first but no-one appreciates me"

A successful marketing plan relies heavily on the pulling-power of advertising copy. Writing result-oriented ad copy is difficult, as it must appeal to, entice, and convince consumers to take action. There is no magic formula to write perfect ad copy; it is based on a number of factors, including ad placement, demographic, even the consumer’s mood when they see your ad.

"sometimes i just want to scream my overwhelm out"

A successful marketing plan relies heavily on the pulling-power of advertising copy. Writing result-oriented ad copy is difficult, as it must appeal to, entice, and convince consumers to take action. There is no magic formula to write perfect ad copy; it is based on a number of factors, including ad placement, demographic, even the consumer’s mood when they see your ad.

Laura brennan

"You've not only built my confidence up, you've injected strength into me, there is something about you (more than my other coaches), that is very unique. It's your spirit and soul. When I was vulnerable, you built me up and protected my business all at the same time."

I See You, I Hear You, I've Been There

Hey there! I’m Sonal and for 21+ years,  I’ve been helping people create healthy boundaries and protect them with simple processes and tools that break them free from the noise in their business and personal life

If you feel stuck and you’re always looking to escape from what you’re doing, you’re not doing the right things and you’re not doing things right.

But it happens to the best of us. I know it did for me.

I wished away years of my life clocking hours, and just being “busy” with
- Work that didn’t interest me
- People who drained me
- Tasks that added no value to my life or businesses

Before I knew it, my teens, 20s and 30s passed me by.

I was running 3 businesses, saying yes to everything and everyone, living other people’s lives instead of my own and managing Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. I was severely burnt out.

Well, they say nothing forces a change like hitting rock bottom…and I can definitely vouch for that.

In 2016 – my body and mind were screaming for me to stop.I crashed epically and fell hard with a “rock bottom” breakdown and didn’t want to continue living the rest of my life like this.

I wanted to enjoy and experience life the way I wanted instead, so I started to make the right changes and put me first. This helped me to:
- Get back 100 hours a month
- Create two businesses I love and funded the life I wanted to live
- Say no, without having to say no
- Make time for what/who I missed in my life
- Have healthy boundaries that brought more of the “right people into my business and life
- Create healthier personal and client relationships
- Help others to achieve the same

If you're super curious on the full story of that and how Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder became my turning point, click here

This allowed me to go out in the world to experience more of life and live it on my terms, without changing who I am. Being in control of my life meant that I could be fully present to help those I cared about and follow what I really wanted to do with my life, without expectations.
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This is what I learned:
- The state of your internal world = the state of your external world. If your mind is a mess, your work and life will be too.
- Gift yourself the right to ask for help. I had coaches and therapists to pull me out of my void.
- Let go of what and who doesn't serve you. Get to know your boundaries so you build incredible relationships.
- Put yourself first, create a more meaningful and purposeful life to show up fully for what and who matters to you.
- If people value their worth by comparing themselves to you, that's on them. But If you value your worth based on that and do nothing. That's on you.

If you're fed up of feeling stuck or lost in life but want that freedom to find and do more of what you love, without losing yourself in the process - I might be able to help.
This is me, Tell Me more!

adam cockerill

"It's so nice to be in such a better place than this time last year. I'm not burnt out looking at work. Amazing! Thank you so much for helping me on this"

time to put you first?

No-one can convince you that getting help and support is a sign of strength not weakness.

That it will help you to move forward versus being stuck in the past and holding on to things that happened, that can't be changed.

That it will help you cultivate a positive and toxic-free environment to allow yourself to live the life you want to, with the right people by your side.

That it will allow you the freedom to WANT people and things in your life versus having to NEED them to feel good about yourself.

Or that if you don't do something now, then when? 

You have to WANT it enough for yourself, and have a burning desire to create that better meaningful life and that better you. and no-one can do that for you.

And I won't lie, it can be a challenging journey, because we have to unlearn old stories and relearn new ones. But if you're willing to explore and be curious with me - I'll be with you on the journey and here to make it an exciting one with you.

It's ok if, right now or, in our first session you think it's impossible or you don't have enough belief in yourself to think that you can do it. I'm here to bring the belief that the best possible outcomes can happen until you start thinking it yourself.
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This is me, Tell Me more!
Sonal Bhaskaran Coaching
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